In a 2012 interview with Out Magazine, during the promotional tour for The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Ezra spoke openly about his queer identity for the first time.
I’m queer. I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular. I’ve been trying to figure out relationships, you know? I don’t know if it’s responsible for kids of my age to be so aggressively pursuing monogamous binds, because I don’t think we’re ready for them.
“The way I would choose to identify myself wouldn’t be gay,” he elaborated in an interview with the Daily Beast. “I’ve been with many people and I’m open to love wherever it can be found.”
In an interview with Shortlist published on Wednesday, Ezra revealed that people told him coming out was a “silly” thing, and that he had “thwarted [his] potential”.
This is an interesting thing to talk about. I was told by a lot of people I’d made a mistake. I won’t specify. Folks in the industry, folks outside the industry. People I’ve never spoken to. They said there’s a reason so many gay, queer, gender-fluid people in Hollywood conceal their sexual identity, or their gender identity in their public image. I was told I had done a “silly” thing in thwarting my own potential to be a leading man … I was given a lot of stern talking-tos.
“You’ve made a mistake” is such a hard thing to hear. Maybe if I’d actually made a serious mistake? But not for this. I didn’t think I’d done anything wrong, though there have been moments of doubt as a result of those conversations. But what they said was, in fact, “rubbish”, as you might say. We are the ones. It’s up to us to manifest the world we want to exist in.