Author: Claudia Nicolette
There is a lot we do not talk about in the LGBT community. Intolerance from non queer people seems to be a common thread that ties us together. It is not uncommon for us to exchange stories with each other about our experiences with this but, why do we sip tea silently when we see our fellow members discriminating against each other? Biphobia, the exclusion of trans people, and misogyny from gay males are just a few examples. Don’t put down your teacups now people, I’m just getting started.
In the spirit of chivalry I’ll address the ladies first. LESBIANS LISTEN UP.
The “B” in LGBT stands for bisexual, not BOOBS or BISCUITS or whatever the hell else you would rather imagine it stands for. Bisexual women are by definition attracted to women and men, and if you want to dig a little deeper there is a term called “Pansexual” which stands for people who are open minded enough to spread the love to everyone regardless of their gender identity. THIS IS A VALID SEXUALITY. They do not have to pick a side if they do not wish to, but in the event that they do ( because sexuality is a fluid phenomenon) they are allowed to change their label to fit their personal sexual orientation. Yes, some of us have probably had a bad experience with a bisexual woman before, but guess what? YOU CANNOT DEMONIZE A WHOLE GROUP BASED ON THE FACT THAT YOU GOT HURT. (Sorry though) Bisexuals are allowed to lean to one side or remain in the middle. They are not ” less gay” than you because although the lesbian label is stagnant, it is not a COMPETITION. Any woman can cheat on you, hell Shane from the L word is an example, but your anger is not at the sexuality. Your anger is rooted in the fact that you feel insecure in her attraction to another sex or you feel disconnected because you cannot relate to an attraction to men. Bisexual people are ATTRACTED to both sexes, they should not be demonized or denied love because of something they cannot help. Bi erasure is real. And little known fact, bisexual people have an extremely high suicide rate that no one talks about possibly due to not only a lack of support and resources, but the internalized turmoil that can be triggered by biphobia. If it’s not your cup of tea cool, but do not disrespect the bi babes.
The next topic is Trans exclusion.
What it all boils down to is this. The LGBT community is supposed to be a safe place for everyone. It is not a battlefield. We should not be tearing each other limb from limb because of our own prejudices, biases or ignorance. We need each other. The world has enough hatred in it already, why add more? Communicate, step out of your comfort zone and work on fixing the disconnect rather than tearing someone down.
Author: Claudia Nicolette
I am a black queer poet and writer from Alabama. Feminism, LGBT issues, and Social justice are the fuel to my inkpen.
This article was originally published here: https://claudiascornerblog.weebly.com/home/its-tea-time-for-the-lg-in-lgbt and submitted to us for reprduction.