There are certain red flags you can pick up on a first date that show someone might not be a good fit for you. Demanding you pay over $100 for their meal might be one of them.
Reddit user CuteBananaMuffin experienced this on a date with a woman, which he shared in a post two days ago on the subreddit r/ChoosingBeggars. He titled the post “Well… There goes the ‘friendship’ with her.”
The thread consists of the text exchange between the reddit user and his date, after the first time they met. He sent her a message asking her if she wanted to go out again, and received the response “After what you did last time you expect me to go out with you again? Wow.”
Confused, the reddit user asked what he did wrong, and she responded that she had to pay for her own food and drink.
The man explained that while he only had a bowl of pasta and a beer, his date had ordered the lobster and and €80 ($90) bottle of wine, totaling €110 ($126), while his meal only cost €17.50 ($20).
“And you were expecting me to pay for that? I’m a student not your sugar daddy,” he added.
“Wow you are so rude!!!!” the date responded. “I’m never going out with you ever again, if you can’t pay for a girl’s food then why accepting the invite?”
She went on to add that “gentleman always pay for girls’ food.”
Then she accused him of only wanting to have sex with her, to which he replied of course he did, but realized “I might not have €20 for that.”
The Reddit user told Bored Panda that he usually pays the whole bill on a date, but as a student, €110 euros was far too much for his budget, as he works 60 hours a week to pay for food and books.
“The date was fun at first until she started talking about another guy and how much she liked him, but I thought ‘let’s eat, talk and leave’ since she’s into another guy, and it all crumbled when it came to the bill,” he went on. “She was shocked that I let her pay. She didn’t say anything at the time, but from her facial expression I realized she was furious.”
In the comments below, one user said: “Anyone that expects that royalty treatment is not someone you want in your life. Good move.” Another said the exchange gives “women a bad name.”
“Lobster!!” exclaimed another user. “Would loved to have seen her face when the bill arrived and you said lets pay for our own food. She tried a fast one there.”