Learning how to be an ally to transgender people seems to be an ongoing process. One of the best ways to start is learning what it mean to be transgender and finding ways to basically change the world to be better for transgender people overall.
Since different members of the transgender community have different priorities and needs we all have to be respectful, do our best and just keep trying.
The most important support should come from family and close friends as well as coworkers and the government in general. This can have a huge impact on the emotional and physical effects of transitioning.
Let this thread be a reminder that there are still good people out there and not everybody is a bigot.
the person who handled my transition the best was my indian takeout guy. when i went in to pick up my order in makeup for the first time he went, “hey, good to see you, you look great. i’m guessing your name isn’t <deadname> anymore?”
— Mel Stone – new song “easy friend” out now (@melstonemusic) March 1, 2020
Took me a while to tell my elderly clients who’d been seeing me for years & knew my family that my son had transitioned. So it was lovely when I told my oldest one, former nun. After the session, she said gruffly, ‘God bless you on your family’s new addition,’ & patted me. 😭💜
— January Garnetson (@a_poods) March 1, 2020
My oldest living relative, my aunt, said “It’s so lovely to finally meet you,” when I came out to her. It was the best feeling 🙂Advertisement
— Michael Bonebright (@ThatBonebright) March 1, 2020
My favourite reaction to announcing my daughter’s transition was my then 76-year-old mom, who just paused momentarily, and then asked “So do you think she’d still like Lego for Christmas, or would a nice dress be better?”
— Katvrouw (@Katvrouw) March 1, 2020
I went to a restaurant recently and the server was someone I went to highschool with and she recognized me and said “you’re looking really good! What do you go by now?” And it made me so happy because I never know how to breach that subject and she was just supportive right away!
— Fennel Ferret | BLM | Acab (@fennelferret) March 1, 2020
I’ve seen a couple of small-press publishers handle it with acknowledgements like “[person] has previously written for us under the pseudonym [deadname]”.
Allowed people to stay connected to their old work (if they want to) while saying [deadname] was never who they really are.
— Tigerfort (@StripeyCaptain) March 1, 2020
Best reaction was when I returned from Christmas break, I went right up to a co worker to catch up and they looked at me and just immediately went, defeated “..I only got contacts” (over the break, in contrast to me showing up in full feminine look now lmao)
— ☽ Nine Hydras ☾ is on OF!💕 (@ninehydras) March 1, 2020